Blog 6: The Theme and Lesson

BLOG SIX - GOODBYE DAYS

Written by Aaliyah Strayhorne 

After reading Goodbye Days, I feel as though people can learn a lot if they read it themselves. This book was full of strong emotions and lessons throughout but I think the biggest take away would be the idea that there is always a way out of the darkest holes you face in life. Carver, the main character, demonstrates this when he is faced with the death of all of his closest and best friends. And he can only blame himself. However, Carver eventually finds help, learns to take care of himself, and gets better. Of course, like many people, Carver wanted to give up but he kept pushing, even when he thought he couldn't. I feel as though many people can learn from Carver. In life, we are met with many challenges, some minor, others large, but either way, they could impact us negatively. We go through trauma. It’s the human experience. Getting out of bad times is also the human experience. When we go through something, it’s hard to feel like we can get out of it. But like Carver, we can learn how to. For one, no matter how lonely you might feel, there will always be someone out there willing to listen to you. Carver’s best friend died. The people he relied the most on. Yet he was still able to find people that cared about him just as much as his friends did.

In real life, there is help you can seek from other people, including the professionals, like therapists. Not only can you find support in other people, you can find it in yourself as well. I believe that to truly feel a change mentally, it is going to start with yourself. While it is okay to have help from others, helping yourself and healing yourself would make the greatest impact. Only you know what goes on in your head and if you can fix your thoughts and be happier within yourself, your chances of feeling better about life as a whole will be greater. To sum it up, I believe the theme of Goodbye Days is that there is light at the end of every tunnel.

 

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